If you caught your friend’s spouse cheating on them, would you tell your friend?
Saturday, July 19, 2008 1:12Posted in category Other - Family & Relationships
Lilith asked:
When a person catches their friend’s spouse cheating on them, is it a good idea to tell their friend about it or mind their own business?
Stop Your Spouse From Cheating
When a person catches their friend’s spouse cheating on them, is it a good idea to tell their friend about it or mind their own business?
Stop Your Spouse From Cheating
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checkme says:
July 24th, 2008 at 3:24 am
no dear by telling they will go away
wtbinfo says:
July 25th, 2008 at 6:06 am
Yes, a good friend will tell unless you want your friend to stay in a fake relationship.
Stephanie B says:
July 25th, 2008 at 1:42 pm
I think that it depends on your friendship. I am glad that is not a decision I have to make! Good luck!
skiszxz8 says:
July 29th, 2008 at 1:13 am
hell yea you tell them
Pilot in Training says:
July 31st, 2008 at 11:51 am
heck ya it is !!!!!!!!
karencabc says:
August 2nd, 2008 at 10:29 pm
I would tell them. A good friend would. Wouldn’t you want your friends to tell you?
tommi e says:
August 7th, 2008 at 8:51 pm
i would let her know because they are your friend
lotsakids3 says:
August 10th, 2008 at 10:40 pm
i would tell them because what if they caught something from the cheating spouse. Besides it’s just wrong to cheat, and they deserve better.
Switch says:
August 11th, 2008 at 7:10 am
duh, in a heart beat.
caliguy says:
August 13th, 2008 at 3:24 pm
Tell them, if your there friend you should be able to tell them the truth. Its not fair to your friend ,if there in a relationship where there other half is cheating and just using them . So yes tell your friend.
Rita N says:
August 15th, 2008 at 2:49 pm
Yes tell your friend if U don’t your friend might find out and hate u for life
cdani425 says:
August 17th, 2008 at 3:13 am
You know what- normally I would say tell them BUT i did catch my friend’s husband cheating on her and she REFUSED to believe me!!!
originalquene says:
August 19th, 2008 at 9:19 am
i would appreciate that someone i trust tells me that
boxfervor says:
August 20th, 2008 at 12:46 pm
Yes, you’re her friend aren’t you. Your looking out for her well fare if your a friend.
Little Duke Ali'i says:
August 22nd, 2008 at 1:18 pm
I would want my friend to tell me so I could kill a ho, but you have to make sure you are right.
Maria C says:
August 24th, 2008 at 11:52 pm
yup, cause you have an obligation to your friend. besides cheating is not cool therefore let him/her know u dont get down like that, tell tell tell. fk that.
¨??â???¨ says:
August 25th, 2008 at 11:29 am
It depends on how well I know the parties involved. If its a close friend who’s very dear to me, then yes there gonna find out.
cope_acetic@yahoo.com says:
August 27th, 2008 at 8:10 am
I would not tell my friend…but I WOULD confront the cheater.
I would probably tell them to END the cheating now, or else I WILL tell my friend.
God—I HATE cheaters! I wish they could be shot!!
twinspick22 says:
August 28th, 2008 at 3:47 am
you should definitely tell your friend about it. it is a matter of life and death. what if he or she contracted aids or some other STD, they need to know, if your friend now contracts aids from their spouse its on your head.
lovin los angeles says:
August 29th, 2008 at 2:29 pm
to tell them because you didn’t ask to know and if your friend doesn’t believe you then she doesn’t or him.
Janet B says:
August 31st, 2008 at 3:07 am
I was once in that unenviable position and had to tell my best
friend. It reinforced what she already new. She divorced him
and is now married to a man who adores her and loves her
kids and all the grandkids. Her ex turned out to be a pedophile.
eshjane says:
August 31st, 2008 at 10:07 pm
Oh, yes I would tell! I wish my friends told me when my now ex-husband cheated on me, instead of finding out years later.
LiveLaughLoveTac says:
September 3rd, 2008 at 2:33 am
If it’s a really close friend that u know a lot about…then I’d def tell him/her because I’d know how much the relationship means to that person…but if it was someone I rarely talk to I’d just mind my business…
SmartyPants says:
September 6th, 2008 at 7:27 am
With all the technology we have nowadays, I’d record the infidelity with my camera phone and then show him/her instead of telling.
JJDK says:
September 8th, 2008 at 4:57 am
tell the spouse that you think what they are doing to your friend is wrong and let him or her either stop or tell their spouse themselves. that is about as far as your involvement should go in it.
Tats says:
September 10th, 2008 at 5:12 pm
They shoot the messenger. If you want to keep your friendship, I wouldn’t tell. However, the risk is if your friend knew you knew, you lose a friend anyway. It’s probably best to make hints without actually telling, or try to get them to think about it without actually telling. Let them find out themselves.
tjmax204 says:
September 11th, 2008 at 3:50 pm
Hell Yes! Tell them! They deserve to know! If you dont tell your friend, this could go on for a long time and their spouse isnt going to tell them. Someone has to. so ya tell him or her.
2cute says:
September 13th, 2008 at 10:29 pm
You should tell your friend. They will love knowing that they have such a great friend that would tell them anything, and always be on their side, watching out for them.
Angie H says:
September 16th, 2008 at 3:08 am
IF it was a very good friend and IF I knew 100% positive they were cheating (not just a rumor, not just that someone saw them at a hotel, etc.) I would tell. I would want someone to tell me. But be prepared, because if they don’t believe you or forgive them & work it out, they could resent you and it may affect your friendship.
William says:
September 17th, 2008 at 8:24 pm
It would be best to mind your own business because you never know what you might be dragged into.
Allison says:
September 20th, 2008 at 6:59 pm
You should definately tell them. Thats what a friend should do. but once you let he/she know, you might wanna stay out of it and let them work things out themselves.
Alexis * says:
September 23rd, 2008 at 9:52 am
I think you should tell your friend the truth about it. You would want her or him to tell you, right? If you two are close you should tell her or him whats going on.
Kat K says:
September 26th, 2008 at 10:01 am
If you truly love your friend you would have to. It is going to be hard, but let them know gently. Knowing something and not telling someone is just as bad as lying to them.
Look at it this way, if your husband was cheating on you, and your friend knew all along, wouldn’t that hurt more than just finding out he was unfaithful? You would feel equally betrayed by both of them!
That would mean both were being untrue to you.
HoneyGirl931 says:
September 27th, 2008 at 10:56 am
Lol, you just saw “Why Did I Get Married?” didn’t you?
Yes, I would tell her, but very carefully and at the right time. The most important thing is to be ABSOLUTELY SURE, because if you can’t prove it, then she’ll never believe you. Second, I would have to be telling her out of love and concern for her–not anger at him because everything will sound hateful and vindictive, which is the quickest way to make sure I’m not believed.
frantic says:
September 28th, 2008 at 6:53 pm
I would want a friend to tell me. But some people don’t want to know. Perhaps – if you know the spouse you could have a word to him / her instead. What about asking this same question of your friend?
alexis_0724 says:
September 28th, 2008 at 7:14 pm
I have been in this situation before. It’s tough. What I did was tell my friend that I caught him. She didn’t believe me and it ruined our friendship. She ended up finding out later, but by that time it was too late. I didn’t want to be friends with someone who didn’t trust me. If I could redo the situation, I would tell the cheater that I caught him. Just see what happens next. Whatever you do… don’t get caught in the middle.
rambutan0316 says:
September 28th, 2008 at 10:29 pm
Yes, that is the best thing to do. I would not want my friend to be hurt by the evil spouse.
Appolnia_76 says:
October 1st, 2008 at 10:17 pm
As hard as it is, I would tell them. Even if they get mad at the messenger, you’re saving them from the risk of getting a disease from the mistress, and from blaming you if they found out you knew and didn’t tell them.
Of course, there’s also the option of confronting the spouse and telling them to fess up if they want to try and salvage their marriage. Better coming from them.
ikki says:
October 4th, 2008 at 1:49 am
no, i better mind my own business
~Shortstuff~ says:
October 6th, 2008 at 7:37 pm
Tell the friend if you think they’ll believe you. Some will already have had an idea that cheating was going on. Get your facts straight before you say anything.
~!Cherry Girl!~ says:
October 7th, 2008 at 10:13 pm
I would definitely tell them!
da whizard says:
October 10th, 2008 at 11:10 am
DEPENDS ON HOW CLOSE A FRIEND.
The mesenger is always shot.
You may lose your friend since you will associated with the tragedy. There is a chance you may not recover the friendship. Defintely read the riot act to the spouse and don”t treat them as a friend. You can drive the spouse crazy enugh that way by reminding them you know at every occasion that it may cause them to slip up and be discovered. Also if other people knew like a parent or someone realted to your friend, word could get to them that way.
Debbie says:
October 11th, 2008 at 2:12 pm
YES! he or she needs to know!
Lilly says:
October 13th, 2008 at 8:40 am
It depends on how long they have been together and how long you have been friends. If that person confides in you , then you need to let them know about the spouse. If you do decide to tell the other person make sure you have proof and let them know you are just trying to look out for them.
Jason N says:
October 13th, 2008 at 8:04 pm
yes no mater what happens it ‘s your friend your looking out for.